Friday, December 13, 2013

aaaaaaand I'm back. And fat as a whale.

"If I could change, I would. Take back the pain, I would. Retrace every wrong move that I made, I would."

Hello ladies. It's me, I'm back. 

I know there has been a VERY long and unintended absence this time. I've missed you all dearly, very dearly. But I stay away on purpose and now I'm crawling back on bended knee, hoping you will welcome back with your open arms. I've been trying to catch up on your blogs, but wow, there is so much!

Let me explain that hodge-podge paragraph. 

I stayed away because I thought that while I was eating, I might as well try to kick the whole eating disorder thing. For a while I did. But now the old habits are creeping back and now I'm fat as a whale and I have a whole lotta work to do. 

First things first. The hot cop is history. 

Let me put it this way. If I can find time in my 80hour working week for him, and for him to be too busy to see me in his 40hour week then something is very wrong. And he gave me a whole lot of excuses that made me realise he's not over his ex, he's in love with her and needs to go to the other side of the world to rediscover himself to get over her. He couldn't stop talking about her. Yes, I miss him. Yes, I'm petrified I will never find anyone. Yes, I knew for a while it was never going to work. But it still feels very hollow. 

And for the past few months I have been solidly plugging that emptiness with food galore. 

I fit none of my old clothes. I'm at my heaviest weight. I feel like a piece of shit. 

The next thing is that I have moved out of home. And funnily enough, it is not helping my diet. I am going out and eating out so much. But I have told my flatmate that I am going on a liquid fast of undetermined length. She's not opposed to it, is not going to make me eat, and so hopefully this will kickstart things in a big way. 

I can't look at myself in the mirror anymore. I just can't do it. There aren't enough words to describe how much I hate the way I have behaved, and continue to behave. 

I feel insecure. I am convinced that I will not find another guy. Which bothers me more than it should. I mean, up until I met the hot cop, I was convinced I was going to be forever alone and had accepted it. But it's like since I actually had a snippet of what it was like to be with someone, I somehow can't go back to that acceptance. 

I'm 24 now girls. I'm so so so so so not young anymore. I haven't met anyone, and I'm pretty sure I just need to get used to that. I certainly won't meet anyone at this weight. 

Ahhhhh fuck. How did I get to this, seriously, how. These should be the best years of my life but everything fucking sucks. 

And now I've reached the point where I need to be happy with something in my life, and the easiest thing is my weight. Like, I have so much extra fat, it shouldn't take too much to start to shift it. I need to do something. I can't stand being this miserable. 

I sincerely hope you've been keeping better than me babes. 


  1. i was worried about you! you've certainly disappeared.
    of course we'll take you back with open arms, angel x
    the hot cop is what
    love, it happened before and it can happen again. that's one thing about finding someone that's so extraordinary.
    you are not a piece of shit. i'm sorry that you're at your heaviest, my flower. it happens i suppose.
    but oh my god when you gain weight it literally feels like the whole world is about to collapse now
    you don't have to go back to this acceptance. accept the fact that what happens to you and your life is not in your hands and you cannot predict what will occur. because that's the real thing of it, isn't it?
    24 years old! omg. you're still young, lady, shhhhhhh.
    but wow, there is a legit 6 hrs difference between you and i! for some reason, i can't grasp that at all.
    i don't know how i've been keeping up but certainly, i'm fine.
    i'm sorry things have been so horrid for you, lovely. you're in my mind xx
    i hope you feel better soon

    -Sam Lupin

  2. I've been wondering about you, you left so abruptly.

    Oh, and I was 29 when I found my fiancé, so you've got some years yet to find someone ;)

  3. Good luck with your liquid fast, and keep us updated. :) Good to hear from you. x